The story...
What a great thing it is to spend time listening to others. Yet, I developed an ear, that's bent towards others, later in life. Relationships can grow in a listening environment where people feel safe enough to "lower their guards." It's hard to acknowledge that others likely raised their "guards' to protect themselves from imagined harm that I might've inflicted. Yes, my words have hurt.
Guards, or boundaries, are important to keep us safe yet they also may be restraining us from experiencing unexpected treasure together. The treasure box may reveal: insights, perspectives, interpretations, facts, ideas, happiness, joy, solutions, imagined realities, strong emotions, spiritual happenings, road blocks, truths, inklings of what might be...
Wow, I can hardly wait to listen to somebody new. Where might I find the people and environment where I might risk listening, sharing, loving, and reaping this good stuff of life? You probably guessed it - the only church in town.
Just for today...
"In the past I tried to control people, places, and things, believing that my way was the correct way . . . my way, based on insisting upon my will, did not work. Yet I kept trying. It was an insane way to live." Courage to Change (p. 316)
So, you've a need to give somebody else feedback. Is it true, kind, and necessary?