How might we work out your faith/life walk better in a town with only one church?
I've been part of a small community who helped me be a better person. We shared three daily readings: Courage to Change, One Day at a Time, and Hope for Today.
As Rommel, I post my daily observations, related content, and how these ideas have helped me better work out my life story.
Please join me in my discovery of how a one-church town might be good-to-great.
This is my favorite day of the year, it,s the birthday of my life partner. I find great joy in celebrating her and her life - we've both come far together. I truly love her and am soo... thankful for our marriage relationship. We've learned and loved much together.
The elements of a good story - Donald Miller
The only church in town well love telling and retelling the greatest story ever told. The Son of Man and Creator who walked this earth and disclosed much of Himself to His creation. They will celebrate His birth, death, resurrection, and offer of salvation to all who believe in The Gospel.
Just for today...
"...examine all the things that are hurting me at the moment. I will challenge their validity to see if there is any basis for my bitterness - or for that dread and fear. I'll probably discover, to my delight, that I have, right at this moment, more than enough reasons to be happy and contented." One Day at a Time (p. 226)
"Have I put someone on a pedestal? Am I encouraging anyone to have an exaggerated view of me?" Courage for Change (p. 226)
"I was still clinging to the notion that Something - in this case a sum of money - was going to allow me to manage my life in my own way and on my terms . . . When I rely on self-will, I severely limit all of my resources. When I turn to God, those limitations fall away." Hope for Today (p. 226)
I'm sitting hear trying to think of an example of when I was treated unfairly. I can think of a continuous stream of them yet I can't work up that one good example. Maybe it's because thankfulness has pushed out the space where I stored resentments? I hope so.
I'm so thankful today. Pain and suffering are sure to come yet my hopes for the future are positive. I look forward to continual growth and am thankful for life. Yes, I'm thankful for that last full breath of air as it entered my lungs as cool air and left as a warm exhale.
The bread of life...
The people within the only church in town would be thankful and generally okay. The grace of God witnessed in action through people with skin on them. They'd be more capable of loving God, themselves, and other people too. Unfairness would meet up with grace - grace would win.
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"No amount of self-discipline can heal us from resentment. Sometimes it seems the more we struggle against it, the more it sneaks up on us, surging like a dark sickness into the mind, plunging our emotions into turmoil." One Day at a Time (p. 154)
I'm sitting in a pew listening to the call to fear and worry. "Expect to be persecuted . . . this is no longer the nation where we grew up." "Batten down the hatches - a storm's brewing!" This seems to be the opposite of hope in God, the Creator, and His revealed plans for His creatures.
I'm not prone to fear; yet, I've been afraid. I don't know what it's like to face the world with expectations of doom and gloom. Sure, I've always enjoyed good health and insurance too. More of my investments have been profitable than unprofitable. I've never gone hungry or been homeless unless I placed myself in a situation where that was part of the plan. I'm thankful that, but for the grace of God, I'm not the worrying, less hopeful, sort too.
I'm truly thankful with great hope for the future. I appreciate the eternal life perspective that I was taught and worked into my reality by faith - faith in the only One who can save His creatures. I think that my inner-man, heart, is secure yet storms and trials will come... This post seems like a long string of "I" statements. I'd rather be in a place where "I" focused more on others and the communities that we actually live in.
Manhood - by Thomas Cole
The only church in town would be a group that's sustained by hope within the promises and upheld Hand of God. Yes, Alan Jackson would be welcome to sing of the power in the blood of the Christ in the only church in town.
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"The future - even as close as tomorrow - is a closed book. We cannot know what it holds, and the more we look for disaster, the more we invite it . . . This is something only God knows..." One Day at a Time (p. 140)
"Wasn't I comparing my insides to other people's outsides . . . If I compare, I lose. Maybe I'll come out feeling better than somebody this time, but next time I'm bound to feel worse." Courage to Change (p. 140)
Long ago over dinner in Bethel Maine, a woman from Xerox gave me advice - it stuck. I've shared this advice with 100's of people and I don't even remember her name. Everybody seemed to understand the advice and its application too. I'd recently been promoted from engineer to engineering manager. She explained the difference between the two tool boxes that I had at my disposal. The old set that served me well and the new set that I'd need to better "lead" and "manage" the group. Surely, it was wise to oil, and occasionally apply, the tools in the old box; yet, the new set must be developed and augmented to leverage the group towards...
I tried leading this group long ago - thank you "Murray House"
Strangely, I sense a need to cleanup and change the tool box that I've been using for the last ten years. Here are seven tools that I think I need to add or dust off, oil, and use more frequently:
Uber Driving: Help people get where they're going and share life along the way.
"Bigger" Ears: Listen to others without opinion or thoughts of fixing, managing, or controlling.
Get Out the Door: Move from thinking about to doing more readily - take that first step.
Thankfulness: Within my prayers, activities, & relationships - on both "Light" & "Dark" days.
Exercise & Stretch: Enable my body to go where He and I will to go...
Invest: Build up others & thoughtfully transfer what I have to 'em too.
Keep the End in Mind - Be eternally focused and earthly good too.
Honest in Self Assessment: Remain humble - focused on the glory of God.
The only church needs you to work out your life with 'em. You need 'em too even though it may currently be a latent need. Bring your toolbox and be ready to work out your life with 'em. Once there, you may find the need to add a tool, pick up an old tool, or replace your tool box with a new one that...
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"I will make myself learn to use a new set of tools: tolerance, kindness, patience, courtesy, love and humor - and a firm determination to do what is necessary to improve my life." One Day at a Time (p. 17)
"I often restrain myself for fear that others will misunderstand and criticize me." Hope for Today (p. 17)
I've made a new years resolution that signals hope for more and better fruit to be born from my life and from those within my circle of concern too. The resolution is doable, builds on truth validated within my earlier years, and is likely to build personal character traits that'll better support change opportunities in 2024. I'm in a good place on the morn of this first day of ...
You gotta leave this to go for that. "This" is normal even if it ain't comfortable. "That" is like "two birds in a bush" - we may want to hang onto "this" in our hand. For me, it's been easier to change after I've had the opportunity to verbally appraise the current situation with a friend. Maybe this kind of life assessment happens for many on the last day of December prompting new-years resolutions on January 1st. A quick internet search estimates that <10% of Americans follow thorough on their new-years resolutions. Given my resolution choice, I expect an 80% probability of success. Why not?
For me, my resolution will help me grow my personal character, relationships and faith. And, the "doing" of my resolution should result in my holding "things" and the "cares of this world" more loosely. How about your change resolution?
The only church in town will "generally" be a God's Word knowing, faithful, honest, helping, and loving group of people. Our idealistic picture of what that one church might be will be wrong. Why? We'll find the wide range of personalities, capabilities, knowledge, coping mechanisms, life stories, shame, guilt, pride, and fruit-bearing capabilities there. The relationships that you might find there are part of the good stuff in life where real personal and spiritual growth might be cultivated. I hope that you make a resolution to become more involved within your church community, while expecting little, and being thankful for what you do receive. Please accept my happy new-years wishes.
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"We all have dark times in our lives, but the journey to better times is often what makes us happier, stronger people. When we stop expecting instant relief, we may come to believe that where we are today is exactly where God would have us be." Courage to Change (p. 1)
"They see themselves in me, I see myself in them, and we learn to love and accept each other and ourselves." Hope for Today (p. 1)
"I have authority over no life but my own." One Day at a Time (p. 1)
In 2000, I chose the long-hard path of education and research to be awarded a PhD in engineering. Thankfully, I found ways to integrate the PhD work and travel within an already busy schedule of work and family life. The studies were related to my job; so, the course work and applications came relatively easy - the travel, missed activities, job changes, and dissertation didn't come easy. I've never been much of a quitter and persevered to be awarded the degree of PhD in Industrial Engineering in 2010. The journey took faith, passion, and discipline. My eyes remained on the prize as I stepped forward. I don't remember many people offering encouragement along the way - there were a lot of doubters and naysayers who advised caution and retreat.
Thankfully, I found a first-year teaching job at the University of Minnesota - Duluth (UMD). It was a wonderful experience for which I'm extremely grateful. The graduate-teaching job seemed to be a good person-job fit. After my first year at UMD, I was offered a job as "Professor" at my alma mater - Iowa State University (ISU). The job offer felt good yet it was too far from home. After 10pm one April night, I talked to my son about his job search; described my own career dilemma; and relayed how I was trusting in God's provisions and not my own. After our conversation, I left my apartment and walked to my campus office - I found the one job that might work at Eastern Michigan University (EMU). I applied that night, interviewed the next week, and accepted the job the following week. The professor and teaching career worked out - the journey required much faith. I'm so... thankful for every step along the way.
What word would you choose to describe you? I've settled in on the word "thankful." I'm thankful for each: breath I breathe; day's weather; hot cup of coffee; expression of love; faithful friend; act of kindness; person I meet; memory of how life worked out; faith realized; and the wonderful surprises along the way.
The only church in town can help each of us be more thankful. How? First, you can learn what your Creator revealed about who you are, where you came from, how to best live, and where you'll spend eternity - the "real" good stuff. Second, you can learn how to be rid of the shame and guilt that may weigh heavy upon your back. Third, you can learn to live more honestly within relationships characterized by love. Fourth, you can witness other lives worked out within the reality of their faith in God's Word.
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"Is any of the attention I once gave to negative thinking now focused on gratitude?" Courage to Change (p. 354)
"I was told what to believe and how to believe. If I deviated even slightly from the chosen path, I was reproached and corrected . . . They wanted to show the world a perfect family. Needless to say, I didn't develop any individuality . . . I had no idea what were my likes, dislikes, needs or desires." Hope for Today (p. 354)
I grew up in a small USA town with two parents, four siblings, all my needs taken care of, regular involvement in a church, vacations away from home, a learning environment, and expectations of graduating from high school and going to college to become whoever I wanted to be. Wow ... what could I possibly have complained about? Well, there was always somebody glorying themselves -polishing, displaying and proclaiming the glory of their attributes that they imagined to be true. - ongoing attempts to glorify self.
As I ponder eternity past, eternity future, and an expectation of living but one life on this earth; each breath is an amazing reality - something to be thankful for. And, I'm so thankful that God provided the answer for that self-absorbing darkness that seems to drif around and through people too.
The only church in town might share a video like "There's a Dragon in my Nativity." They'll share the story of when our Lord and Savior Jesus the Christ came to our earth to redeem us from the darkness that's so offensive to our most Holy God - His attributes are obviously worthy of glory. The congregation will share a better more fruitful way to live out this life and eternity in Christ - man . . . that's good news!.
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"At no point in my life will I achieve perfection; there will never be a time when I will not need the joy and satisfaction of helping others." One Day at a Time (p. 348)
"What would happen if I started thinking God when problems occurred? At first I had to force myself to say 'Thank you, God,' through clenched teeth. By and by, my teeth unlocked and I replaced self-pity with gratitude. I truly began to live." Courage to Change (p. 348)
I'm so thankful to be thankful because I am thankful.
Here are my top ten reasons for being thankful:
God's word that confirms I'm right with God due to faith in Christ's redeeming work alone.
Each breath I breath - to be alive.
My life partner who promised to stick with, and love me, no matter what.
Family members who I share life and love with.
Ability to receive, understand, store, recall and apply knowledge.
Close friends with whom I walk through life towards a common aim.
A warm, comfortable, safe home within the security of the USA.
Mobility to go where I want to go and care for myself.
Wise, "Yes," choices that help me grow and be.
Medical system that enables me to be active and relatively pain free.
The only church in town will teach, preach, and proclaim good reasons for being thankful. In a community, there will be circumstances where the comforts of this life don't seem within reach. Yet, their souls often sing with joy - faith worked our it reality. Community living like this should have been in my top ten list - I wonder where I should have inserted it and what it would have replaced?
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"If I so choose, I can regard everything that happens in my life as a gift from which I can learn and grow." Courage to Change (p. 332)
Were you looking for someone who meets your needs yet expects little of you? That's a pet - like a dog.
A friend of mine met my mother in her independent-living home on Tuesday. I introduced him to her and they settled down to one-hour conversation about her life past and present - him in a chair and her laying comfortably in bed. It was a great joy listening to my mother describe her life - mostly good but there was bad stuff too. She shared her hope that her kids, grand kids, and great-grand kids would go to church. Her greatest pain was the loss of her husband in 2011 - she described how she missed him every day. They lived a good life and that made her happy. The surprises and joys, in her current life, were centered around the different people that are caring for her and meeting her needs. "I never was around people like that, I really like them and some of them feel like friends." That was her unexpected joy - she thinks that relationships like these might be why she lived so long.
The only church in town will ideally be like that independent-living home. There will be some paid staff doing their jobs yet most of the caring and loving will be shared between each other. People living out their life and faith in God's Word together. The love my mother felt at the independent-living center surprised me every time I visited. What if you spent more time with the folks in a church? You might be surprised at the love you witness, receive and seem to offer to others. Many of us are clunky and different so it might appear in unexpected and surprising ways. Love experienced is worth it.
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"If I can see nothing but my troubles, I am seeing with limited vision. Dwelling on these troubles allows them to control me. Of course I need to do whatever foot-work is required, but I also need to learn to let go." Courage to Change (p. 323)
"When I'm uncommunicative or dishonest in my interactions, I set myself apart and feel rejected. Conversely, open, truthful communication nurtures feelings of trust and encourages me to participate fully in life. However, as I begin to change my old habits, fear of rejection sometimes tempts me to respond in old ways." Hope for Today (p. 323)
During my mid-life years, I went fishing to recreate. Inevitably, I'd call my dad to tell him what happened. I knew that he was interested in fishing, and he seemed to appreciate learning about my episodes too. There was a sort of give-and-take in those conversations - we were both able to "check in" with each other.
I lost most of my interest in fishing after my dad died. Strangely, I seem to have gone fishing to reexperience good feelings from early years. Maybe I wanted my dad to know that I was okay and that I appreciated him in a way that I could communicate.
My dad was a good man. Yet, he wasn't able to meet some of my significant needs. I accepted this truth and loved him for who he was.
I do fish now for different reasons. I no longer seek my dad's approval and I don't need to be fishing with another person to be fulfilled - I'm "okayer," thankful and more content.
The only church in town will be a place where you can meet a close friend, friends, community, and God within view of that bright Light that's God's revealed Word. Why not honestly live out life within community as opposed to acting out on your own? You're an important part of this epic story of life - why not live out your part?
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"Expecting him to be a nurturing person was unrealistic . . . I adopted some of his character defects as my own . . . I needed to give myself what was not in his power to give - love, acceptance, wisdom, a safe childhood, and a healthy initiation into manhood." Hope for Today (p. 296)
(He'd be giving it to her) If she knew what she needs
(He could give her that too) If she knew what she wants
(But he can't see through her) If she knew what she wants
He'd be giving it to her Giving it to her
But she wants everything (He can pretend to give her everything)
Or there's nothing she wants (She don't want to sort it out)
He's crazy for this girl (But she don't know what she's looking for)
If she knew what she wants He'd be giving it to her
Giving it to her I'd say her values are corrupted
But she's open to change Then one day she's satisfied
And the next I'll find her crying And it's nothing she can explain
If she knew what she wants (He'd be giving it to her)
If she knew what she needs (He could give her that too)
If she knew what she wants (But he can't see through her)
If she knew what she wants He'd be giving it to her
Giving it to her (giving it to her) Some have a style
That they work hard to refine So they walk a crooked line
But she won't understand Why anyone would have to try
To walk a line when they could fly No sense thinking I could rehabilitate her
When she's fine, fine, fine She's got so many ideas traveling around in her head
She doesn't need nothing from mine If she knew what she wants
(He'd be giving it to her) If she knew what she needs
(He could give her that too) If she knew what she wants
(But he can't see through her) If she knew what she wants
He'd be giving it to her Giving it to her
But she wants everything (He can pretend to give her everything)
Or there's nothing she wants (She don't want to sort it out)
He's crazy for this girl (But she don't know what she's looking for)
If she knew what she wants He'd be giving it to her
Giving it to her (He'd be giving it to her)
(He could give her that too) (But he can't see through her)
Ooooooh Giving it to her Giving it to her now."
Susanna Hoffs and the Bangles: "If she knew what she wants."
We'll find people within the only church in town who're trusting God to meet essential needs. Yes, we might trust God and bear real fruit - the kind of stuff we need. Now I know what I want and He gives it to me - praise God.
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"When we bring things out into the light, they lose their power over us." Courage to Change (p. 275)
"Few of us know what we really want, and none of us knows what is best for us. That knowledge remains, in spite of all our determined resistance, in the hands of God." Hope for Today (p. 275)
"... when we are strong we are always much greater than the things that happen to us, and the soul of a man who has found himself is like a deep sea in which there may be many fish: but they never come up out of the sea, and not one of them is big enough to trouble its placid surface. His "being" is far greater than anything he feels or does." Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island (p. 125)
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