The story...
Some people, with peaceful hearts, do seem to love other people better and more naturally listen to them. Yet, it seems that most people, who are primarily focused on themselves, have a hard time learning to listen well. I experienced most of my life trying to be a good listener yet my mind naturally drifted back to me an what I wanted to communicate. I practiced self-help listening methods to the point that most people would claim that I was a good listener. The benefits of my efforts to try to be a good listener were illusive. The truth was, I was more interested in me than them or what they had to say.
My heart has changed and I now do love other people more and truly want to understand them and their stories. I believe it's a work of the Spirit of God in my life. Praise God that I'm freer to love and be loved.
Why would I choose to return to a more self-focused life? I greatly value my relationships and listening to better understand. Seeking first to understand truly is an important part of both starting and growing relationships.
Yes, I'd choose to attend the only church in town, share the Word of God, and work out my faith with co-sojourners. I am a Christ-one and will be no other.
Just for today...
"As a child in a _______ home, I wasn't encouraged to share my viewpoints. When I did, I didn't feel as though anyone was listening. Someone always ended up walking away hurt or angry. . . I've learned not to use my authority to push my viewpoint or to punish someone for disagreeing with me. I've also learned to avoid controversy by listening and encouraging others to share their viewpoints when making decisions." Hope for Today (p. 208)
"We can't seem to get around to thinking about what we may be doing that damages us. . . Do I seek relief from my resentments by retaliation, instead of forgiveness? . . .What shall it profit a man to be right if he thereby make an enemy?" One Day at a Time (p. 208)
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