The story...
When I assigned my kids a job, like raking the lawn, I assumed that they'd want to learn and follow my best method. How do you know what a well-groomed yard looks like unless you're told? I had this compelling urge to "jump into" the process if it wasn't going the way I thought was best..
Personally, I like to be shown a best way to perform a job and then be left alone to try it for awhile - time to work out my own method. I do want to know what a "good job" looks like yet it's easy to get information overload - too much information too soon. I do have a strange sense of satisfaction when I learn a new task/job and cast my eyes on my completed work. I know that most people don't view or experience work the same way I do yet I expect that most people enjoy that deep-down satisfaction of a job well done. Self-respect and dignity seem intertwined as we exercise our abilities.
The only church in town will have a variety of opportunities for people to engage in work both as individuals and as groups - a good person-job fit. I'd hope that they'd experience the love of the Spirit of Christ as they're treated with respect and love along the way. Might we all agree that relationships are much more important than the trimming of the lawn?
Just for today...
"... if I take over other people's responsibilities, I may rob them of the chance to accomplish something and to feel good about what they've done. Although I am trying to help, my actions may be communicating a lack of respect for my loved one's abilities. When I detach with love, I offer support by freeing those I care about to experience both their satisfactions and disappointments." Courage to Change (p. 168)
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